Dating men forgetting about their women
In general, my finding is that inter-racially married second-generation Asian American men generally fell into a category of those who engaged in a strategy of either “denial” or “compensation” in regard to dominant American masculinity ideal.
That is, they, though not all, tended to be “compensators,” highly assimilated individuals who saw themselves as people who either transcended the negative Asian male stereotype by trying hard to achieve the hegemonic masculinity, or “deniers” people who did not believe that negative stereotypes existed or that these stereotypes applied to themselves since they were really “white.” Such assimilative tendencies often went hand in hand with a desire for women of the dominant group in society, white females, whose approval provided these men with a sense that they are successfully approximating the American middleclass hegemonic masculinity and winning societal acceptance.
Jason, a Korean American, denied that he saw his white ethnic wife as a “trophy,” but admitted nonetheless, “You think more of the person you are dating because she’s open-minded enough to go out with someone like me.”White women are not trophies. You are forgetting one thing when you do this ; you are propping and supporting the white supremacy.
Now 21% of Asian men intermarry , while 36% of Asian women intermarry , which represents a 5% increase and a 1% decrease among the respective genders. We can talk all day about our personal experiences and stupid “field reports” for all the PUA’s out there, but at the end of the day all of this is subjective.The vocal minority claims that all we need to do is go on a quest of personal improvement , and magically , these dating woes will just magically disappear.But let’s start by looking at the raw statistics for the interracial dating disparity between Asian men and women, because they don’t lie.Obviously , there is something deep at work here , or else the marriage rates would not have such a big discrepancy.For most, it is the significance of growing in in These powerful desires shape the subjectivities, fantasies, and intimate desires of Asian Americans from a young age. For Asian men and Asian women alike, we are influenced by the later. There is also a hegemonic femininity , an ideal that is much easier for an Asian female to attain, since she has no cultural penalties imposed on her. In males and females , it influences both sexes to see the opposite white sex as a trophy to attain. When you were young , did you wish you were as pretty , or as muscular as that white model that was shown in the magazines , or television show?