Dating a man with a kid
Who cares if their nights out start and end before we even begin our happy hour?Those afternoon naps they are tied to can be filled with lots of fun.For now, I’m just available, playful in my own way, and practicing patience. Affairs chronicles the current dating scene in and around Los Angeles. The author lives in Encino and is a lecturer with UCLA Writing Programs. If you have comments or a true story to tell, email us at [email protected]
I could never understand what a recent college grad would have in common with someone I considered to be a parental figure.
It was a long wait — we are both in our mid-40s — but well worth it. I had never dated anyone with children, and I never wanted my own. She’d called when we were driving to the Mark Taper Forum in downtown Los Angeles, and we put her on speakerphone while I remained silent because she didn’t yet know her dad was dating.
As we inched along the 405 Freeway, my anxiety increased.
“I know it’s against your nature,” she said,”but when it comes to his kids, be a cat, not a dog.
You’re going to want to hug them and bond with them, but it’ll be better if you relax and hang back. I had already fallen in love with their father, so what would I do if they didn’t like me? David and I both grew up in Northridge, both completed graduate and undergraduate degrees at UCLA, had friends in common from college and recently discovered that my cousin was his childhood music teacher.