Dating a depressed person
“You gain not having to do things, which is bad for various reasons.” Pushing your partner to pitch in doesn’t just take the burden off you—it also gets them active as well.
When dating someone with depression, keeping an open conversation will help you and your partner get through depressive episodes together.
By figuring out what’s really going through your partner’s mind, you can figure out if dying is a fantasy that they’d never act on or if there’s a real emergency at hand, she says.
“Their acting in a certain way doesn’t mean anything about you, only how they’re moving through that [particular] moment,” she says.
Encourage and support them, but don’t put the whole weight of their depression on your shoulders.
It can look so obvious from the outside: If they just focused on the positives and counted their blessings, they’d feel so much better!
Losing interest in activities is a symptom of depression, so don’t be surprised (or offended) if your partner would rather stay home than go out.
The first step is to encourage your partner to get out of their comfort zone and follow through on your plans, says Kissen.