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A few days after he suggested the trip, he asked if he could come earlier than we'd planned.
And a few days after that, he said he wouldn’t be able to make it until April, and actually, this wasn’t going to work and he couldn’t do it anymore. Six weeks later, I met a guy I through Tinder, which so rarely happens it’s like the unicorn of dating experiences.
In another unicorn of dating experiences, the guy who ghosted me after sex wound up un-ghosting me. He’s divorced and realized that he wasn’t ready to be in a serious relationship yet, and admitted that he had his own patterns he needed to work on, like, for instance, withdrawing.
We talked about what had happened, and he explained why he’d been out of touch. While it was extremely helpful and comforting to hear that from him, I can’t count on this always happening.
And given " instead of what I usually do: sobbing uncontrollably while manically downloading meditation apps. I expect that I will continue to for some time to come, if not forever.
But between my therapist who helps me question my negative beliefs, my friends who keep telling me to not take things personally, and my own relentless work on myself to shake loose from these painful storylines, I’m making some progress.
But there are two techniques that can sometimes give me a little bit of distance from my internal storylines. First, when I start hearing those voices in my head saying (OK, more like shouting), ""Second, when I’m trying to consider other possible explanations for why a guy bailed or ghosted or cut and ran, I could, in trying to comfort myself, decide that he’s just an asshole.
The West Coast was a little far to pursue anything serious, but I was just so happy to feel excited about someone else to get my mind off the ghoster.
While it’s still hard for me to not take it personally when a guy I know and like does something insensitive, I can let it roll off my back when someone I don’t know does, even when he’s cute and seems interesting.
Like a few weeks ago when another Tinder match I hadn’t met yet cancelled a date, promising to reschedule, and I never heard from him again, I didn’t even a shed a tear—or download one meditation app.
Seriously – coping with dating rejection can be an emotional nightmare.
A lot of times you will hear the pain minimized or someone who does not know you will write an article about how it really is not that bad.