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A: The number one thing Brian stresses for guys to do on a date is to uphold the dignity of a woman.
I echo my husband’s sentiment and think the most important thing for a girl to do on a date is to remember she has great dignity and worth.
Most of this will come naturally when we find someone we’re compatible with.
But what if you’ve done all this, and the guy still seems like he doesn’t get the hint you’d like to go out with him and you really want to?
Continuing to attend to your pre-love priorities (friends, homework, family, etc.) will serve as an anchor to make sure your new relationship doesn’t take over your entire life, as well as having the side benefit keeping you un-grounded so that you can continue to see your new squeeze. Also, no matter what happens, the golden rule applies—behave in a way you can be proud of, even if your partner doesn’t do you the same courtesy.
I get that my children don’t want me to talk to them about sex, ever, please Mom, stop talking. But more important than the “why you should wait” and “why it’s a really big deal” conversations (which make you shudder and roll your eyes) is the conversation wherein I explain to you that all physical contact with a romantic partner is some degree of sex, and all of that contact must be 100%, unequivocally, enthusiastically, consensual. This is a good principle for all relationships, but especially for romance. Balancing protecting yourself with taking emotional risks is something you’ll work on your whole life.
Knowing that God wants us to love others will guide you to be respectful and thoughtful on a date. It is our job as women to let a guy prove himself worthy of getting to know who we really are.
This does not mean that every guy who asks us out will be up to the task.
It could be that he’s not interested in taking you out, or that he’s not ready in his own life for a relationship, etc.
If you always put the other person first, and/or they never put you first, there’s a problem. You’ll have your whole life to learn to deal with necessary interactions that hold an inherent amount of power inequality. You, in some ways, have more power over the guy who brings you coffee and relies on your tip. Consent is not just about intercourse and it’s not just about not saying no.
And I’ll be the first one to tell you that plenty of people are more important and more powerful than you, and the sooner you accept this as part of life and just deal with it, the better. If everyone knew that 1) they had to be totally into it and 2) they had to check to verify that their partner was totally into it before proceeding, well, the world would be a better place. (This Laci Green video about Steubenville is NSFW and maybe not safe for younger teens, but I love her take on consent being mutual and enthusiastic no matter what the level of intimacy.) Personally, I dislike the oft-repeated sentiments about how someone is your “better half” or “makes me a better person.” You’re a whole, fascinating person without a love interest.
But last night we found ourselves discussing the latest bogeyman of raising not-yet-adults: .
Listen; I know some people don’t believe in dating, and I’m not here to change anyone’s mind. But just as it hurt to watch my toddler wipe out on the concrete between lurching steps, oh, it hurts to witness the typical blunders of young infatuation.