Advice for dating a man with children
Anyone who’s ever had children -- or even baby-sat -- knows that caring for them is a lot of work.When you have kids, it’s a lifetime commitment, and you often have to put the needs of your kids before your own.(Just ask Luke and Lorelai.) That said, there are a few factors to think about that you otherwise wouldn’t have to. O’Reilly shares insight on what to know (and what to discuss with your potential partner) before pursuing a full-on relationship with someone who has children. How involved are they with their kids, and much do they want you to be involved, too?“Dating someone with kids is going to look different for everyone because not every parent has the same relationship with their kids,” says Dr. “One parent may see their kids every single day, while another person only sees them at holidays.A certain amount of the single dad’s time will be spent on parental duties such as preparing meals, picking kids up from school or attending their soccer games and dance recitals.This not only allows you to take some of that time for yourself, it allows the kids more alone time with their dad, which is healthy for them.One big question to ask early on is how big of a role that person plays in their kids’ lives.” Next, Dr.O’Reilly says it’s important to ask how big of a role your potential partner is expecting you to play in their kids’ lives. O’Reilly says to consider before jumping into a relationship with someone with kids is if you are both envisioning the same type of future.
While there are hassles and roadblocks, to categorically dismiss a good man with whom you have great chemistry because he has kids may be doing yourself a great disservice.
“Be mindful and know that if two parents are in the picture, that other person has been there from the beginning and you have not,” she says.
“That means you have to take into account that they will likely be in the picture as well and you have to be able to have reasonable discussions.” If you decide to move forward with the relationship, figuring out when you should meet the kids is bound to be something on your mind.
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And BTW, this is how many dates it takes until something is a relationship.