20 27 year old dating
If they gave me an hour-long back massage to prove that he loved me, then I guess we were going to have sex.
If he cooked me dinner on the third date, well, I'm sort of leading him on if I don't try to like him, right?
But the basics — chemistry, sex drive, how naturally dominant or submissive your partner is — those things are pretty damn fundamental to how you'll work as a couple.
I spent a lot of time with nice, attractive guys who I just didn't have much chemistry with.
But that doesn't mean it wouldn't have been nice to hear anyway.
Until pretty much this year, I've managed to date guys who were in various states of underemployment.
Whether they only had part-time gigs or were straight up out of work, I gravitated towards guys who were still "figuring it out".
That's something I could have compromised on, but once I stopped being so afraid of the dynamic and spontaneity I actually wanted, I found it was a lot easier to spot it in someone, and pursue it.
A guy who's just as successful as me, not a player, AND likes strong women? Or at least, that's what I told myself, as I wrote off the more ambitious guys I wanted most as "probably jerks" for seven years.
By picking guys I could try to make projects out of and help direct, I was trying to avoid confronting the ways in which I could be more professionally fulfilled myself.
Now that I'm with what I would consider to be my first "Grown Man" (whatever that really means) I find the need to baby talk has mysteriously mostly disappeared.
Sure, I'm still sweet and affectionate, but I don't want to sound like a baby to him.